"The only man I know who behaves sensibly is my tailor; he takes my measurements anew each time he sees me. The rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them." -George Bernard Shaw
I jumped from bed this morning with a thought of granting myself permission. Have you ever waited on someone else to grant you permission or approval? Are you tired of the wait? Although you carry on with your daily life does it feel like you are living in limbo. Unable to do what you really want and need to do yet, you are not acknowledging that you’re waiting on someone else. Well, this morning I realized that many times along my journey I was indeed waiting on someone else to grant me approval or acceptance which kept me stuck.
There are life-changing decisions that we should make, in a timely fashion. That means that we cannot afford to stand still as if we are waiting on a bus on a cold winter night. I felt the chill throughout my body as I waited on others to allow me to do what I needed to do for my life. Too many times the bus never came and I felt that I was suffering from hypothermia with frostbitten fingers and toes. A feeling I never want to experience again.
Have you allowed opportunities to pass you by, people to pass you by and time to pass by as you waited, only to discover you were not going to get what you were waiting for? In many cases, those that we are waiting on don’t even realize that we are waiting on them and the saddest part is that many times we don’t realize it either. All we know is things are not happening the way we think they should or the way we want them too. STOP, for just a minute and think back on a time when you had a decision to make & for some reason you just could not. Was it the feeling you got down in your gut? Was it the pouring of emotion that you felt? Perhaps, it was your yearning for permission or approval of those near and dear to you.
When I decided to file for divorce I remember the feeling in my gut, I recall the overwhelming emotion and I knew what took me so long to get to that space. My parents had been married for what seemed like forever & subconsciously I wanted to be married just as long if not longer. For me, there was an internal fight that took place for years before I took the leap of faith. I didn’t realize until later that I had been waiting on the permission/approval of my parents. Somehow I wanted them to understand and acknowledge that this was in my best interest. Yet, neither my mom nor dad had the slightest clue. Since they were unaware and I was too years flew by with me standing in the dead of winter at the bus stop and there was no bus in sight.
Come in out of the cold my friend! The bus has been rerouted…it will not arrive at that bus stop. Get real quiet. Pull out your journal and just begin to write without putting too much thought into it. Stop for awhile and then go back. Ask yourself, who am I waiting on? Why am I waiting? Write the answers down in your journal. Get up out of your seat and repeat this four times a day for 21 consecutive days:
I give myself permission to think great thoughts, do great deeds & succeed. I give myself permission to dismiss negative thoughts, things & people. I give myself permission to move closer to my goals & dreams.
I believe in you & your ability to live on purpose with passion. GO for it! ~ Peace & Love ~
This was sent to me by a beloved sister of mine and here I share with you.
Girls vs. Women
Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown women know that if he’s truly hers, he doesn’t need controlling.
Girls check you for not calling them. Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn’t.
Girls are afraid to be alone. Grown women revel in it using it as a time for personal growth.
Girls ignore the good guys. Grown women ignore the bad guys.
Girls make you come home. Grown woman make you want to come home.
Girls leave their schedule wide open and wait for a guy to call and make plans. Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits it.
Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man. Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.
Girls try to monopolize all the man’s time (i.e., don’t want him hanging with his friends). Grown women realize that a little bit of space is always needed and can’t wait to kick it with her own friends.
Girls think a guy crying is weak. Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.
Girls want to be spoiled and tell their man so. Grown women show him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his manhood.
Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. Grown women know it’s his loss and keeps it moving.
Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all signs. Grown women are mature enough to know that sometimes the one you love doesn’t always love you back. They know they are a treasure and keeps it moving.
This is an excerpt from an article in the Weekly Report by E.J. Jaxon Relationship Diva
This is a true story about a woman I worked with for several years.
I'm sure we all know at least one person who cannot find a good thing to say about anything or anyone. Your typical "miserable" person who could have $10 million handed to her and would complain that it wasn't $10 million and $1.
This was such a person.
The sky would be blue, the temperature warm and the flowers in full bloom. She would point out one small cloud that loomed in the horizon, that it was two degrees warmer in another town and that the petals on the tulips were wilting prematurely.
She had nothing good to say about anyone we worked with, and I thought we had a great group of people.
I eventually started to avoid her because try as I would to get her to find something good in the world, she would strike down my every effort.
When we would learn of anything new in the workplace, she would immediately react with anger and start venting her opinion to anyone within earshot.
I decided to distance myself from her because I could not raise her energy and she was bringing mine down.
Science has proven that the way we think, feel and react has an impact on our health and physical well-being.
When someone is constantly sick or suffering from one ailment or another, this may often be a reflection of what is going on in his or her thoughts.
Of course, there are always exceptions; however, I have observed that many of those who live in a constant state of negativity, and who react to many situations based on their judgments, suffer more maladies and chronic illnesses than those who don't.
I often contemplated this theory when thinking of my co-worker and I wondered if some day she would suffer a fatal heart attack or terrible illness because she was so filled with anger and negativity.
While working a Tuesday afternoon shift, she booked off duty early and went home because she had a small bruise on her leg that was causing her intense pain.
Later that same evening, she was admitted to the hospital and diagnosed with flesh eating disease.
Wednesday her leg was operated on and it was learned that the disease had spread into her other leg and abdomen.
Thursday she was given her last rights.
When I heard of this series of events, I was shocked and saddened. I listened to others saying, "How could this happen? She's young and so healthy."
I couldn't help but think to myself that her thoughts and negative feelings might have finally manifested themselves through her physically. Somehow I was not so surprised anymore by the terrible news.
She remained in Intensive Care for many months and even though she was not expected to live more than four days from her diagnosis, she remains with us today.
She has very little left of her legs, endured numerous operations on several organs, and spent many months in physical, mental, spiritual and emotional agony. Many months passed before she was able to see her two young children.
I often think of her when I am inclined to react to certain situations in a negative way, or when I am tempted to fall into a negative pattern of complaining or criticizing.
One of the great powers we have is the power to choose, and when I’m faced with the choice of complaining or making the best of a situation, I take the high road.
Do I do it consistently? Not always. After all, I am human and do make mistakes. But, every day I continue to strive to be better than I used to be.
What can you do today to create a more positive outlook on life?
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The world is smaller than we think and our time here shorter than we know. It's time to wake up, adopt a new mindset, set higher goals, come together and make this world a better place one action at a time. One cannot do it alone but in masses we can do anything. Food for thought. Peace & ♥ my friend!
I hope your morning was as productive as mine. I would like to take a few moments to share a thought with you. In life and in business, the only things that really matter are the RELATIONSHIPS we developed with others. Imagine that you were the most powerful person in world and then you were taken to isolation…not so powerful anymore. Then I believe it’s safe to say the power that each of us possess is in relation to those we know.
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Now I am asking you to share something about yourself with me. If you could, please send me your current contact information, any website that you may be affiliated with and 3 things of interests that you’d like for me to know.
Is that so? WRONG! To all my sisters that continue to date married men. Hello!!! When are you going to smell the coffee? You deserve a man of your own. A man who can love, honor and respect you as a woman. First, you must present yourself as a woman that demands respect. When you play the other woman, you send a message SCREAMING that says, "I don't respect myself why should you?" Do you REALLY believe that he's leaving his wife for you? Occasionally they do but I'd suggest we start talking to those that he left home for. Many of these women soon learned that if he left for you, he'll leave for another. Then she's hurt...what about your sister that you hurt by sleeping with her husband, perhaps for years?
Low self-esteem causes us to believe that we are not worthy. You are mistaken my sister. You are worth so much more. Allow your sisters to pull you out of this ditch, dry yourself off and join me for self-awareness coaching sessions or workshops.
It's time we wake up! If you don't want to be hurt, then don't hurt another. The men that cheat do so because they know they can. We allow them to get away with it. This damages marriages, friendships and families (YES, the kids are effected as well). I refuse to come between a man and his wife. What about you? Sound off sisters...let me know what's on your mind.
